There’s absolutely no need to stress how much effective negotiation is important during a divorce.
However, you can be the best negotiator – because it’s your job – because you work in sales – because you do contracts – because you’re a politician… – and still
fail a divorce negotiation!
I was taking a similar tangent during my own divorce.
In some states, the court encourages or provides, free of charge, a mediation session with a forensic mediator. My ex and I did the first mediation. Inconclusive. It was not like, in a list of 20 points, one point remained unaddressed at the end of the meeting. We didn’t reach an agreement on anything. Not one thing.
Second mediation. Inconclusive. Private mediation. Inconclusive. Do you see my mistake? Negotiating with people who don’t care about negotiating. I should have stopped at the first mediation and waited for them to come up with a reasonable proposal and let the rest keep rolling.
There are lots of reasons why the other party seems to make things more confusing. I explain some background in this video. It’s important to know, because you’ll realize there’s nothing to do about it. But you’ll also realize, it does not matter after all. What actually matters it’s the final goal, i.e. for you to be happy.
Watch the video. Click below.
Family therapy/angry couple photos created by DCStudio – freepik.com
